Jan 17, 2022·edited Jan 17, 2022Liked by Josh Barro
My husband and I have been together almost 20 years. We did a commitment ceremony in 2010 in Puerto Rico where my husband was born. We did a civil union when it became legal in Illinois (where we lived at the time) - and, we eventually did a legal marriage when it became legal in Colorado.
And here is the thing - I don’t think there was ever a proposal. We just planned for a party - and, then we figured-out when to go do the paperwork when it was legal!
Marriage is a decision every day after the wedding, too. The first time that decision's made is a fantastic event to celebrate. Happy Fifth and Happy All that Follow. :)
Great story. Like you, I'm not a fan of the whole "will you marry me" engagement ordeal. When my wife and I got "engaged," we had already planned our elope. I said "I got you something," and I handed her her ring. It was very anti-climactic, just the way we like it. But that moment did get us a free piece of cheesecake, so that was awesome.
Thanks Josh for sharing such a lovely story! 25 years ago I had the privilege of interviewing 40 self-identified happy lesbian and gay couples (20 of each) who had been together from 9-50 years for a book (Together Forever). No one spoke of a perfect relationship, but all spoke of how their committed relationship (this is pre-legal marriage) enriched their lives, and all spoke of the importance of seeking outside help with their relationship when a crisis or some other challenge threatened it. They also took great pride in achieving their happy relationships and celebrating them in a world where almost everyone said that such relationships couldn't possibly last. Mazel tov on your anniversary!
How do you balance social media time and how does he feel about it? It’s part of your job and necessary evil for a public profile journalist or figure. Does he help, roll his eyes, or tell you to put it down?
I’m late to the party, but thank you for posting this. As a perennially single gay man who is tired of the apps (but sees no alternative to them), I read this and found myself wondering what I often wonder about happy couples: how did you meet? If there’s a story, maybe it deserves its own weekend piece?
What a beautiful story, thank you for sharing it. I'll try to forgive you for linking to that hideous piece by the woman who seems to think that hating her husband is some sort of achievement - I made the mistake of following the link and reading it (well, the beginning of it).
This is the sweetest most genuinely wonderful thing I’ve read online in a very long time
This newsletter was just what I needed today. For all sorts of reasons. Thanks for sharing and all good wishes!
My husband and I have been together almost 20 years. We did a commitment ceremony in 2010 in Puerto Rico where my husband was born. We did a civil union when it became legal in Illinois (where we lived at the time) - and, we eventually did a legal marriage when it became legal in Colorado.
And here is the thing - I don’t think there was ever a proposal. We just planned for a party - and, then we figured-out when to go do the paperwork when it was legal!
Thank you for sharing your story!
Marriage is a decision every day after the wedding, too. The first time that decision's made is a fantastic event to celebrate. Happy Fifth and Happy All that Follow. :)
Just don’t buy a house in Pennsylvania, that turned out to be a bad choice in one of the other marriage articles.
Great story. Like you, I'm not a fan of the whole "will you marry me" engagement ordeal. When my wife and I got "engaged," we had already planned our elope. I said "I got you something," and I handed her her ring. It was very anti-climactic, just the way we like it. But that moment did get us a free piece of cheesecake, so that was awesome.
Thanks Josh for sharing such a lovely story! 25 years ago I had the privilege of interviewing 40 self-identified happy lesbian and gay couples (20 of each) who had been together from 9-50 years for a book (Together Forever). No one spoke of a perfect relationship, but all spoke of how their committed relationship (this is pre-legal marriage) enriched their lives, and all spoke of the importance of seeking outside help with their relationship when a crisis or some other challenge threatened it. They also took great pride in achieving their happy relationships and celebrating them in a world where almost everyone said that such relationships couldn't possibly last. Mazel tov on your anniversary!
How do you balance social media time and how does he feel about it? It’s part of your job and necessary evil for a public profile journalist or figure. Does he help, roll his eyes, or tell you to put it down?
Wonderful topic and article! Loved reading this…smiling through the entire article! Happy 5th Anniversay ❤️
Great story but I’m not seeing the engagement selfie
Wow. So unexpected and great
I’m late to the party, but thank you for posting this. As a perennially single gay man who is tired of the apps (but sees no alternative to them), I read this and found myself wondering what I often wonder about happy couples: how did you meet? If there’s a story, maybe it deserves its own weekend piece?
What a beautiful story, thank you for sharing it. I'll try to forgive you for linking to that hideous piece by the woman who seems to think that hating her husband is some sort of achievement - I made the mistake of following the link and reading it (well, the beginning of it).
Oooooooooh but just wait... Kidding kidding congratulations on 5 years! :)